DATING STANDARDS

It’s true I didn’t have standards before, this I don’t deny. This was due to a naiveté problem not a self-esteem problem. I thought all humans worthy of my love, I didn’t know I’d encounter brutes. I have 99 problems but self-esteem issue is a problem I don’t have. If anything I have inherited from my father the opposite problem, an inflated sense of self. I legit think, rationally or irrationally (you be the judge) that I could be Oprah tomorrow if I wanted to… In any case, I have since created dating standards, I even have a list now: 1. Prays 2. African. 3. Decent Human 4. Intellectually Pleasing 5.Sexy AF. My friend still thinks my standards are in the trash based on the following scenario. Whose side are you on?

What had happened was… I rejected the invitation of a man I met a man recently in a professional setting, he introduced himself as Dr.So & So…I asked, Medical or PHd? He replied both. Turns out the man has both MD/PHd from Yale. Remember the scientist I briefly mentionned last week with a Wikipedia page? Yea that’s him. Was super flattered/impressed but I still rejected his invitation to dinner because he was in his late 50s early 60s. My friend thinks that was stupid of me.

Especially because I am currently entertaining a man with a slightly lower earning potential than me. I don’t want to depict myself as a Saint. I love money, would be nice if my man had some but it isn’t a dealbreaker. For me standards are kindness, maturity, humanity. Have I missed the memo, yet again?

Two seconds away from becoming a nun. Nah, just playing, a life with no men? Eww. Then again, I have a cousin who loves to share that he found his wife in a convent. Don’t ask me how and why. He always ends the story there and cracks up loudly. Everyone is always too stunned to comment…