2Baba&Annie: Love-Obsession-Hate

Now, if you will, get cozy, let me tell you a story. But wait, before I begin, I want to highlight: (1) wickedness & violence have no gender, (2) male victims deserve unequivocal support too! Now, let us proceed…

🎵🎶 You are my African Queen… The Girl of My Dreams🎤🎵🎶 Annie exclaimed, “WAWU, I do!” But, really… what Oga 2Baba meant was … <occasionally> <share me> <don’t stress me>. Not sure when it happened, but somewhere along the line, women were convinced they were to tolerate, forgive, forget, mother-it up, sexy-it up, chef-it up, push through, pray, endure. Ah! Ah! Is it marriage or World War III? I lasted 1.5 seconds in this marriage business. I don’t have the capacity. 

I have yet to see a man love to his detriment! Generally, soon as their investment does not yearn any returns, they liquidate their portfolio & swiftly diversify. Women though, women will love to their very death… Take Bimbo for example, Nigerian socialite and mother of 5, said to have been an excellent student, defied her father and mother & abandoned her studies to accommodate her husband for two decades. Bimbo endured infidelity upon infidelity until her “love” turned into madness. In the end, she burned their house and herself in it. The husband had another girlfriend in weeks and abandoned all 5 kids. Now, enters Annie… 15 y/o Annie began a relationship with 24 y/o Innocent Idibia who would later become 2Baba, singer of the Hit Song “African Queen” (Hello, Police?). They married, had two kids then the man had 5 extra kids behind her back. Now, her “Love” has turned into folly and goody-two-shoes Annie has allegedly taken on drugs. Fast forward to a couple days ago, man announced on IG he is divorcing her, & Annie got hospitalized.

Ninjas will Ninja, which makes sense, considering the laissez-faire approach of society. Maybe they don’t even know we mind they sh*** since we keep taking it… Ladies, if you think this can never, be you. Think again. The Bible warns: “If you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” I pray for the restoration of our communities. Also, Imma need us to redefine these terms. Struggle love is not love, it is unhealthy obsession, it is fear of abandonment, it is “dickmatization”…

Lastly, at some point, we will have to stop infantilizing women and hold them accountable for their actions. However, that day is not today. I respect grief too much. All the Annies of the moment: I wish you a love that honors you. I, too was once delulu, but then I revolulu’d. Type of Intellectual African men I entertain now, are so secure and modern, they’d take my last name if I asked. Boss up sis, this is YOUR movie!