Love, Delusion, Revolution

**I write this note with my sister, my muse in mind. Sandrine has been with her husband 15 years+ yet she remains the least male-centered woman I know. I now finally understand everything she ever tried to teach. “It’s you, chouchou, you are the magic!” she’d say**

I grew up sheltered, did not know men until college so naturally , I was delulu. Until I married, he was unfaithful & my family snatched me out of there QUICK. What followed surprised me. Most everyone judged my response disproportionate. I wanted to understand why so I began to informally survey the women in my community.

Heartbreakingly, there are maybe 20% healthy homes. The rest is straight BULLSHIT. Those who are not being serially cheated on, are being beaten and/or financially abused. Just a pair of lazy testicles walking around the house, doing nothing but exist and command. YET – African women rarely complain and certainly never leave. I love and respect Marriage, it’s just- we seem to have forgotten to teach our daughters self-respect… In the name of scrotum, we have taught them to carry heavens on their shoulders – so – their blood will be on our hands!

Niko zubakwa? Zisenyuke, tuzubaka izindi. Abafundi mumugi sibo babuze