Category: PERSONAL BLOG

Ever heard of a purity ring? My sister used to wear one so I wore one too. It’s pretty common in Christian American circles. The idea is you are committing to chastity until marriage. No one verifies, it is an honor system between you and God. Typically, women in these circles marry very young :…

I am told some are uncomfortable by my supposed oversharing. Dear, why the self flagellation? You musn’t look, you know… ——————- Burya ngo hari abatashimira ko nsa nuvuga cyane. Ngo ubuzima bwanjye mbushyira hanze cyane. Nshuti, kuki wiyicisha urubuzo? Wafunze amaso nturebe, mukunzi?

Brethren, If only you knew what the “abroad” they threaten you with truly looks like, you’d pity us. Allow me to share some insights: We are grateful for the opportunity to come and amass these riches. Next time though, don’t let anyone intimidate you, it ain’t all that. XOXO

Bavandimwe, Iyaba muzi ayo mahanga ukuntu ahanda Mwajya mutugirira impuhwe. Mutege amatwi mbabwire ameteka yaho hanze babakangisha. Si umurwenge ahubwo ni akumiro. Turashima Imana yatugejeje muri ayo mahanga ngo dupagase. Gusa ntibakabakange, hano si shya shya. Amashyo?

Gentlemen, quick question for you, with all due respect— why are you not used to tenderness? A small smile and you think I want to undress you. If I wished to see your nakedness, I would make the request clear ———— I smile at everyone, everywhere. I love and respect every human no matter their…

I am in Atlanta, back from my non-Christopher Columbus voyage. It recently occurred to me: I have been insulated from archaic African societies’ mentalities since birth. I just wore a dress at my cousin’s wedding with a high slit (impundu impundu for the newest couple in town, Elie&Ange). My family members, who are mostly like…

As I reminisce on my stay in Kigali, I am reminded of the meaning of family. The truth is, I tend to clash with grandma because, she is used to a different parenting mode and I am not used to following orders. (Dad is the coolest parent in all of East Africa.) But it doesn’t…

Les Jeux Olympiques sont en cours (Olympics are ongoing) and the far right French are BIG MAD. Singer Aya Nakamura was selected to sing at the opening ceremony. While bred in France, she has 2 sins: (1) her skin is dark and (2) her blood is Malian. Critics are complaining she is not a representation…

Mbese ubuturage ni iki? Ubuturage si ubukene, uwaseka umuntu ko akenye yaba ari yo njiji iruta izindi muri Gasabo. Njye mbona ubuturage ari kugira imyumvire idasonanutse. Twese tugira ubuturage buke muri twe. Ariko hari abakabya. Mwokabyara mwe mwagabanyije ?

Today marks my 9th day in Kigali. I’ve had a hectic 2 years so my family sent me to rest (**ndasetse amasaro arasesekara**). I am spending time with my favorite people in the world who are feeding my soul. As if that was not enough, my sister took me on “a getaway within the getaway…”…