Tag: marriage
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(Un)Holy Matrimony
They will say “here goes Olivia, complaining about Marriage again…” I beg, I beg, I am innocent of all they accuse me… I write about what I observe in society, the moment the institution becomes equitable, le chapitre seras clos,(the chapter will cease). What I have observed is this: if you like, as a woman,…
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I met Mobutu, forgot to ask of his twin wives.
Congolese Politician Mobutu is considered one of the most flamboyant African strongman ever. First, based on his policy of Authenticité, he rejected all colonial ties & renamed himself Mobutu Sese Seko Kuku Ngbendu wa za Banga. Translated as “The all-powerful warrior who, because of his endurance and inflexible will to win, goes from conquest to…
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Naira’s Depreciation & Kevin Gates’ 60 day Marriage
The Naira has not only depreciated it has entirely collapsed. I knew it was bad when I found out Rwandan Franc (I think for the first time) is now stronger than the Naira… In 2 years, food prices have increased by 80% and fuel has quadrupled. How are my Naija people even surviving. The fudge?…
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Love & War
Just the other night, I was in the middle of having a toddler meltdown, which I am ofc not proud of. Still, I don’t only share moments that make me look good. With the rise of perfectly-curated-social media images of self; I made the commitment long ago to share my life in its most raw…
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Rolls Royce
My dear friend invited me to a sort of double date situation. Nobody termed it as that but I took the liberty to since we were 2 single women lunching with 2 single men. My friend is a boss herself so I should have known… The men were very respectful (a stark contrast from last…
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BRIDE PRICE
Our African customs mandate the payment of a bride price (AKA dowry/ “Inkwano”) to the woman’s family. This is a symbol of gratitude that says “Thank You For Raising a Wife for me” . There is no actual set amount, every family decides. Some families legit have lists of items to purchase (Cattle, Jewels, Materials,…
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In Re Chivido “Stone me Not”
I wish to preface my message by saying Impundu Impundu! (Exclamations of well wishes for newly wedded couple.) It is not about them per se. They have simply ushered us into a larger conversation that is: “African men misbehave because African women do not hold them accountable”. I do realize I am a badly-positioned vessel…
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